Posted Aug 29 2018, 12:21 pm in advice for parents, back to school, bullying, consent, middle school, Sachem, social networks, suicide
Dear Parents of Middle School Children,
It’s that time of year again…. back to school season. New backpacks, new books, new friends. Fifth, Sixth, Seventh, and Eighth grades are times for lots of changes for your child.
This is when puberty hits, typically with hurricane levels of power.
Puberty is more than just first periods and cracking voices. It’s also a time of profound emotional upheaval for children. Think about it for a moment…. their bodies may look adult and almost fully grown, but their brains are still immature, struggling to process all the physical changes while strung out on surge after surge of hormones. Your children will do their best to separate from you while struggling desperately to fit in with their friends. This is often the time when they will beg you for a smartphone or access to a specific social network.
Middle school marks some huge changes in your children’s lives. In my case, it almost marked the end of life.
When my son was in sixth grade, he was the target of bullies who thought it was fun to taunt him because he’d finished puberty. He had the deep voice, the acne, the height…and the body hair to prove it. But inside, he was the same as them. The taunts, the cruelty went on for months… until almost the end of the term. I found out about it because he finally admitted to suicidal thoughts. Yes, I noticed the changes in him. Yes, I tried to talk to him. But I attributed all of those changes and his grunts disguised as communication to puberty.
And I almost missed it.
So, as you buy those school supplies and back-to-school clothes and maybe even those smartphones, sit down and have THE TALK with your middle schooler. This could save their lives. Or…maybe someone else’s child.
I find the best times to have The Talk are in the car. It’s often easier for children to speak openly when they’re not looking at you. Understand that this Talk is never once and done. It’s a continual conversation that needs to grow and adapt as your child does.
Take it from one who nearly lost her middle-schooler.
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